Midlife Mom

Men!  We can't live with them we can't live without them.  So what do you do?  Women!  Let's focus on us for a minute.  Can I just say we are a straight up emotional rollar coster, and if I were a man I think my head would spin trying to figure out what a girl wants.  So these are my thoughts, as a woman, to help a man out.  One of the most important things I want from a man is security.  I want to know that the man I'm with will love me forever, provide to the very best of his ability for my needs, and protect me from harm.  I know that might sound like some kind of super hero, but it's not unrealistic.  We aren't looking for perfection all the time, but we do need some consistency in the security you provide us.  Secondly, I need to know that I'm the most important woman in your life.  I'm not nieve enough to think that you won't notice other women or that you won't have other relationships in your life, but, I NEED to know beyond a shadow of d

The dictionary defines Love as "an intense feeling of deep affection."   A feeling.  Let's just talk about that for just a minute.  Feelings come and go.  Feelings can easily be altered by circumstances and situations.  If love is a feeling then it can be there one minute and gone the next.  Feeling defined is "an emotional state or reaction." These definitions are not what I want love to be based on.  I want something solid, unwavering, unconditional, strong, without flexibility.  Is that even possible?  If you would have asked me 20 years ago I would most definitely without a doubt said YES!  True unconditional love is out there somewhere.  There are couples who are in love and remain in love for many years.  Most of my beliefs came from the love I experienced from my parents.  They loved me dearly and unconditionally.  They seemed to love each other too but that was also the perspective of a child   I didn't understand the true meaning of their relations